I read in some parenting magazine the advice that in addition to friends with kids your kids' age to maintain friendships with friends without kids and friends with older kids you admire.
Well, despite the fact I live not too far from where I grew up, I have a whole whopping two friends I ever do things with regularly. And, now my friend Michele is moving away. So, I am feeling sorry for myself. So, now what I am supposed to do fancy parenting magazine advice-giver? I am officially down a friend without kids now. She isn't moving to the moon, but I have no shortage of friends that live over an hour away.
It's kind of a bummer. Not to be vain, but I have always had a lot of friends. I am kind of lazy to make new friends, and I feel kind of like an outsider. It seems like all the cloth-diapering, greenliving, AP mommas around here like to knit, homeschool/unschool and breastfeed (don't, won't, and can't respectively). Even though I seem kind of crunchy to my friends, I am not crunchy enough to fit into the crunchy crowd. And then I feel guilty about it.
My yogurt making attempts have failed; I buy it from the store. Then I feel guilty for spending money on yogurt.
I will probably put Frontline on my dog. Then, I feel bad about the chemicals.
Seriously, I don't even know what kefir is. So chances are we won't be eating it, drinking it, or making it at home anytime soon.
I barely have it together as it is. I was late dropping the girls off AND picking them up from their playschool today. I ran into the mayor (former boss) and looked about as unkempt as possible. There was dried spit up on the baby carrier which was hanging open while I held the baby with spit up coming out of her mouth. And, that's what I hope people were looking at versus my crazy hair and casual, dated outfit.
I didn't fit in at City Hall, either.
So, am I destined to be the weird-o at library story hour trying to make friends? Maybe it's for the best since I spend most of my time chasing kids that I don't have time for making new friends anyway. How sad is that?
I met all of my friends in a bar. It seemed to work in college and it seems to have work after kids too.
ReplyDeleteThat is rough though Nicole. My friends Melinda and Drew moved to Ohio for 3 years and I cried like a baby when she left. She grew up in Chicago, fell in love with a Grinnellian and moved here. No wonder we clicked! Luckily for me and Rusty, they moved back to Grinnell with promises to never leave again! I really don't know if I could live here if it wasn't for my friends, but then again, I don't have any family so they are my family!